Monday, April 29, 2013

Wait...maintenance EVERY day?!?!?

We have never done regular maintenance...SC calls maintenance when he can see me slipping in some area, or he can see me not "feeling" submissive.

Last night I was punished. It was not fun...I mean I guess punishment never is...but this was REALLY not fun. I received a punishment spanking for one thing and then additional spanks for another infraction. It was one of those weird times my emotions just take on a mind of their own. I got angry.


I really can't tell you why. It HURT. And while SC assured me it was supposed to hurt...that is after all the point. I was still in a weird head place. I can't explain it, but I started acting out because I was sore...even the blanket touching my bottom hurt and was setting me off...I was exhausted, it had been a really long and tiring weekend. I was just overdone. SC could sense me acting "off" and "pulling away." That ended me OTB for 5 more. At that point my anger went to whimpers. Insert odd conversation here:

SC: Does Clint say anything about whimpering?
My head shot up in surprise! huh? I don't think so, Why?
SC: Because I don't like it. 

I was SOOOO tired. Not sure if I thought those whimpers would get me sympathy...it apparently didn't work if that's what I was going for!

SC refused to let me pull away and held me close. (I have a love hate relationship with this!) And then.... he decided that I had not been feeling or acting very submissive lately...that I wasn't expressing a desire to please him like I have in the past. He feels I have put up some walls and we are missing some of the closer intimacy we had experienced in our earlier days with dd.

To get back to this place, SC has declared daily maintenance until we get back. I asked how long he would do it. . . His answer? As long as it takes. <sigh>


He's right. Some walls have unintentionally been built. Not huge ones, but little inconsistencies here or there have laid a brick or two...life gets in the way and communication falters...another brick. The brick building around my heart is not intentional, and it is not desired. I know he is right...but as I sit uncomfortably from last night and await not only maintenance but a punishment from my attitude about everything this morning...I can't help but be a little nervous for my bum...

I miss that close connection. I need it. I crave it. SC is probably right...this may be what I need, but it is one of those times I may need it, but I don't want it. One of those times I am grateful to have an HoH that puts my needs and our needs over my wants...

Our marriage is stronger than it has ever been. We are closer than we have ever been. He is more in tune with my needs, and I to his. He is thriving in his role of HoH, and I as a TiH.

So, le sigh, if daily maintenance for awhile is what takes to make our already amazing marriage more incredible...I submit...even if it is with a little trepidation...

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  1. One of those times I am grateful to have an HoH that puts my needs and our needs over my wants...
    That's a beautiful point, and a most important one to keep in mind when it may get tough.

    Daddy and I do maintenance daily, it works for us, but I am ....labor intensive, lol

    (((hugs)))

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    1. Thanks June! I need to remind myself of that often...I know it will be difficult but honestly after the day I am having,...I really hope it helps! :)

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  2. "le sigh" That part was cute :) Hopefully it won't take too very long for you to get back on track. ((hugs!!!))

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    1. Thanks Sara! I hope not either!

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    2. Do you have an email? I couldn't find one. If you would want to email back and forth with me mine is be.quiet.sara@gmai.com

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    3. I do! My email is coleredefined@gmail.com. :)

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    4. Thanks Cole!!!! :D :D :D

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    5. Oops I meant @gmail.com I sent you an email already :)

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  3. Oh my... daily?!? I'll be thinking about you, my friend, and hoping those walls collapse soon! :)

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    1. I know right?!? Daily?!? That's what I said! I had a rough day today and know I am facing much more than maintenance tonight...ugh, I need to get out of this fast! :( thanks for the kind words sweet friend!

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  4. i thought i replied to this, but my laptop had a virus and it seems i didn't post like i wanted.

    anyway.... i am SO sorry cole! how long do you think this will last? daily maintenance sounds so harsh, and i know others have had it done to them too, but still, it makes my bottom hurt for you. take care of yourself but don't do what i do.... no laughing during a punishment!

    hugs,
    m.

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    1. Lol Maryanne, I can honestly say the urge to laugh during a punishment has never been an issue...there is little funny about wooden paddles! ;) lectures on the other hand? Completely different story! Lol I don't know how long it will last, but I am confident he will not make it last a day over necessary... He also assures me it will be punishment OR maintenance every day... Not both. I suppose that is reassuring! Lol

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  5. Oh...owww! I would not look forward to this either, but have known some other couples who have tried it and it really has helped them. I hope you two are the same and that it doesn't take very long at all to help you get back in a better place.

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  6. Sorry to hear you got punished

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  7. Ooooh...owie! Daily maintenance does not sound fun at all. I'm hoping this never ever happens to me...but it seems to be going around. I've heard it from a couple other bloggers too. Good luck. ((hugs))

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    1. It's proving tougher than I thought...I hope you don't either! :)

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  8. Oh gosh, I can so understand. Daily maintenance is a big PAIN. I'm doing much better with it, so sometimes we skip a day. It does seem to keep me in a more consistently submissive mindset.

    But ooooh, those days when it turns into a rodeo..yikes.

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    1. Stormy! Thanks for stopping by! :) daily maintenance can be rough..especially when it has a punishment attached....but it certainly does wonders for my submissive attitude. We took a day off and I could feel the difference... I really hate admitting that! : P

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