Thursday, March 21, 2013

PSA: His rules are NOT Stupid!

A disrespectful comment found me leaning over the bathroom counter the other morning. The bathroom because two doors and a bathroom fan separate us from the kids. His quiet implement of choice: the cane.

ugh. Have I mentioned my disdain for the cane?

We had just had a relatively respectful discussion about lack of consistency, and my HoH decided to punish me for my attitude. Lovely. Remind me why I want consistency again? This punishment was not in regards to that particular conversation, but about something that had happened earlier in the morning which he had said we would deal with later. Apparently later meant then as he didn't want it hanging over us all day.

As he pulled me into a hug afterwards, he told me he would try to be more aware and consistent. I sighed... and smiled..."it's just I hate knowing I will get punished for the stupid rules and then you miss some of the big stuff that can really affect our relationship..."

Quiet.

 Did you just call my rules "stupid?"

 I laughed..."no. .. it's just . . ."

Back over the counter .

Not laughing anymore...

Seriously?!?!?


PSA: Never tell the HoH with a cane in his hands that his rules are "stupid" while your pants are around your ankles. . .

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  1. maryanneMarch 21, 2013 at 5:25 AM

    oh wow. i'm sorry. this is a good lesson in filtering. my filter is terrible. i really need to work on it.

    see you,
    maryanne

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    1. ColeMarch 21, 2013 at 8:41 AM

      Filter, yes. Apparently mine went missing! Doh! I will be working on it as well. :) thanks for stopping by!

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  2. CallieMarch 21, 2013 at 5:34 AM

    OOOPS Cole, time to keep your mouth shut! I know I should take some of my own advice too ;)

    Callie

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    1. ColeMarch 21, 2013 at 8:42 AM

      Seriously Callie, what was I thinking!?! Some things are better left unsaid. Lol

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  3. Learning Domestic DisciplineMarch 21, 2013 at 7:33 AM

    You're right Cole - it's best to choose words wisely with an implement wielding HoH. :) Hey, you live you learn, right?

    It's nice to see you two working together on the inconsistency. I hope things improve in that area for you two. Best of luck!

    -- Clint

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    1. ColeMarch 21, 2013 at 8:46 AM

      Darn those implementing wielding HoH's! ;) Lived and learned. Truth be told they really aren't stupid rules. They are really for my health, and I get that and appreciate his care of me.
      This inconsistency really had been a new thing and is gone as fast as it came I think. I might be wishing I could take that conversation back. Lol

      Thanks for stopping by, and for adding my blog to the LDD blog roll! :)

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    2. ColeMarch 21, 2013 at 8:48 AM

      *implement (silly auto correct is not dd compatible) ;)

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    3. Learning Domestic DisciplineMarch 21, 2013 at 10:40 AM

      My pleasure, Cole. Happy to do it. :)

      Keep the great blogging going!

      -- Clint

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    4. ColeMarch 21, 2013 at 9:16 PM

      Thank you! :)

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  4. bob March 22, 2013 at 3:02 AM

    Sounds like your HOH has gotten your attention with the cane.
    Remember to keep talking about how to improve your new relationship.
    I thought it was kind of him to use the cane so he wouldn't wake the kids up.
    Nicely done.

    Bob

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    1. ColeMarch 22, 2013 at 5:37 AM

      Thank you, he definitely got my attention. :)

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  5. Bleue D'âmeMarch 22, 2013 at 1:58 PM

    Consistency for both parties of a D/s, is something that takes to develop and it ebbs and flows. And oh yes, its never good to comment in the negative while they are holding an implement...Welcome to Blogland!

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    1. ColeMarch 23, 2013 at 11:29 AM

      So true! I am trying to be patient as this part of our relationship develops! :) Thanks for the welcome!

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  6. KenzieMarch 22, 2013 at 6:03 PM

    Lol, yikes - we haven't really used the cane, so I don't know how it feels, but I imagine it's not a walk in the park. We're having issues with consistency as well, and I always wonder if when he finally is consistent, if i'll be asking myself why in the world I wanted that. :)

    Sounds like he's stepping up though, so that's awesone. My attitude tends to land me in trouble sometimes as well .. so I can relate. By the way, I love what i've read so far on your blog! I'm going to add you to my blog roll on my page so I can keep up with future posts. :)

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    1. ColeMarch 23, 2013 at 11:31 AM

      The cane scares me in theory more than in practice. The wooden paddle is way worse. (Shhhh don't tell my H!) ;)

      Consistency is definitely tough, but it is a journey! Thanks for the kind words and adding me to your blog roll! :)

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  7. ChristinaMarch 27, 2013 at 4:29 PM

    Yep, definitely not something to say! ESPECIALLY when he still has an implement in his hand! LOL

    Now you know so won't ever do that again, right? ;-)

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    1. ColeMarch 29, 2013 at 5:21 AM

      Definitely! Except if I keep saying it to others I am going to slip up...lol need to work on that!

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