It has been a crazy month, but a good one. and a difficult one.
I spent the better part of the last month questioning a few things about our dynamic and wondering if we would ever make dd "just another part of life." Things seem to change so often in our dynamic that normalcy does not seem to be one description we could use. More to come on this soon...
We were gone for a long weekend last week which was wonderful, and super fun since on top of a weekend away with no kids, (even thought it WAS a work trip for my h!) I got to meet up for lunch with 2 amazing dd wives!
I was totally freaked out. What if we had nothing to talk about? What if we just stared awkwardly at each other? What if I didn't fit the "right" personality for a "good" dd wife...what if it was horrible?!?!
Yeah, totally stressed over it...for nothing! It was amazing! These ladies were awesome, NORMAL, hilarious, and so lovely! Si very grateful for that opportunity. We spent hours laughing. No awkward moments there! :) And totally amazing to get to meet others in the lifestyle-- real people doing this crazy thing we do...knowing you are not alone...
I was sick the whole time we were away and while that meant I went about 2 weeks without being spanked, I didn't go that long without earning one...so they just.added.up. Yuck.
The more they added up, and the more time I went without being spanked, the sassier I got. Yeah, no idea why I do that.
One night we were lying in bed and SC and I were laughing and I started pushing the line...a little. OK, errrr a lot. I was a mess. SC, finally, very done with it all, says "Here's the line and you are over there...crossing it."
No idea why but I burst out laughing.
He saw that as sass and swatted me.
I laughed harder.
He swatted harder.
No wait! <more laughter> <more swatting> Wait! <he pauses> Wait! <giggle> I am NOT crossing the line. I am dancing on it. <pause> <giggle> Line Dancing!!!!
At that point he couldn't help it and joined me in my giggle fit. (ok ok he didn't giggle...guys don't giggle...but he definitely laughed!) I am not sure if he just thought I had lost my mind and figured he should join me in my insanity...or... yeah, no idea!
So the truth is, I am pretty good at that-- line dancing that is. Sometimes it gets a laugh and sometimes it gets a swat...occasionally it gets wood and that's just no good...but line dancing is a serious talent of mine! Sometimes I think its rigged...the line moves.
Oh it's totally rigged! The line moves all the time. I love line dancing too ;)
ReplyDeleteCallie
We should totally call foul! Silly line movers! ;)
DeleteI agree with Callie, it's rigged! It seems like everyone is meeting other DD wives. I'm glad you had fun, I'm so jealous!
ReplyDeleteKim
Aww. The meet up was super awesome, a great opportunity! Hopefully you will get the chance soon as well! :) totally calling foul on the line movers! ;)
DeleteI'm a line dancer too. And the line does move. I'll think I'm dancing right on the line only to find out when I'm OTK that the line was somewhere else.
ReplyDeleteOh yes, OTK and OTB is the ultimate indicator that the line has moved! :)
DeleteI am so happy we were able to meet,what a blessing! I'm still surprised they didn't throw us out of the restaurant after 4 hrs. You are amazing my friend, and we all had a fantastic time, can't wait to do it again.
ReplyDeleteR always says I camp out and make myself at home on that line, but I agree with Callie..it's always moving!
Big HUGS!!
Camping on the line, absolutely! I like to stick close! Meeting you was such a treasure! So glad to call you friend! :)
DeleteI loved meeting you and there wasn't an awkward moment at all!! (And getting lost on the way back to the hotel doesn't count- ha!) It was amazing to talk so openly and laugh so hard! We must have lunch again and just stay for dinner next time! :)
ReplyDeleteYeah for no awkwardness right! And major laughter! ;) we totally almost stayed for dinner hahaha. Meeting you was such a blessing! :) thanks for an awesome time!
Deletewe had a "meeting" last night and it had been about a week or a little over a week (i can't even remember, ugh) but i was giggling all the way through it. he did the same thing as your hubby. smack smack smack!!! i was so happy to be back in that "spot" that i was just totally giddy. it was hilarious and we both ended up laughing all through the night and into the morning. i guess things are just good all the way around. stress is so much less when we're "on track." i'm glad i'm not the only one!
ReplyDeletei used to question this dynamic a lot (when it didn't fit into our schedule) but now, well, now it's just who we are and if a week passes there's no questioning it--it just means i need to prepare my bottom for that next meeting because it'll be a doozy. and. that's totally ok.
now, about meeting other dd friends----omg. so jealous over here. i wish i could have been there with you all, because what a hoot that would have been. so happy for you girlies. :) hugs hugs, m.
So true, as we continue in the dynamic we grow and learn...primarily learn to let some things go ;)
DeleteMeeting others in the lifestyle was a true gift. So nice to know you are truly not alone :)
That's so great that you got to meet two DD wives! Isn't it so nice to meet someone in RL who just gets it? So happy for you guys. :)
ReplyDeleteYes, it was awesome! Thanks!
DeleteCole,
ReplyDeleteJack calls that line "the edge" amd I am forever going on it and we all know what happens next. I love that you, Kim and Jennelle had lunch together. I long to meet other wives as it is vital to meet others who are doing this. To do it all alone would be difficult.