tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-190265362537976617.post4819013469171352244..comments2021-03-12T16:24:40.314-08:00Comments on Marriage Redefined: "Calm Down:" Them's Fightin' Words!Colehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14094102802633154552noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-190265362537976617.post-23397222302616182622013-04-15T21:56:03.378-07:002013-04-15T21:56:03.378-07:00HAHA I love this post too, and I soo agree w/Kim! ...HAHA I love this post too, and I soo agree w/Kim! It is definitely like throwing fuel on the fire! LOL Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-190265362537976617.post-74224731490000037912013-04-15T14:35:51.847-07:002013-04-15T14:35:51.847-07:00I was just telling Hubby last night that he needed...I was just telling Hubby last night that he needed to call me out on my behavior if it is disrespectful. I don't always know when I'm doing it. <br />As far as calm down? Well, if Hubby said it I would have to do as he said. If a stranger said it, I would tell them where to stick it. But that's just me. lol... ((hugs))lilmisseshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08437889372965529146noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-190265362537976617.post-74466898652395844242013-04-14T12:51:58.084-07:002013-04-14T12:51:58.084-07:00Thanks! Amazing what we can accomplish when we tak...Thanks! Amazing what we can accomplish when we take the focus off of the other person and place it on our own behavior, eh? The knowledge of what could come certainly helps! Lol wish I would have thought of that yesterday! Colehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14094102802633154552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-190265362537976617.post-81018164248135192072013-04-14T07:39:54.938-07:002013-04-14T07:39:54.938-07:00Wonderful post, Cole. How true, how true. I have a...Wonderful post, Cole. How true, how true. I have always HATED bring told to calm down and now I think, "if I don't I might not enjoy the end result." And low and behold?!!!! I get myself adjusted and in a better frame of mind. Lol funny how things work like that when you start dd. Thanks for the reminder! (I think!) Lol<br /><br />M.maryannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14039657944100565917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-190265362537976617.post-76936480386702620142013-04-14T04:53:57.997-07:002013-04-14T04:53:57.997-07:00Thanks Callie...the emotions of it are crazy huh? ...Thanks Callie...the emotions of it are crazy huh? I thought my h was going to let this go yesterday but not so much. Big lecture last night about heeding his warning to calm down. :( big spanking followed big lecture. Hopefully I have learned this lesson well! Colehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14094102802633154552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-190265362537976617.post-62324807163169859002013-04-13T22:43:57.672-07:002013-04-13T22:43:57.672-07:00Loved this post. It's all about us changing ou...Loved this post. It's all about us changing our behaviour and looking at things in a different light. I don't like being told to calm down either, but like you, it's not whats he's telling me, it's how I'm feeling. <br /><br />CallieCalliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08722173496181331492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-190265362537976617.post-76754331950770760842013-04-13T19:17:01.311-07:002013-04-13T19:17:01.311-07:00Glad to know you are improving with this as well. ...Glad to know you are improving with this as well. It really is just part of the lifestyle, but it is still challenging! ;) Colehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14094102802633154552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-190265362537976617.post-22098926921058704712013-04-13T19:16:20.652-07:002013-04-13T19:16:20.652-07:00and sometimes change is good! :) and sometimes change is good! :) Colehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14094102802633154552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-190265362537976617.post-63691302847655962892013-04-13T18:17:12.403-07:002013-04-13T18:17:12.403-07:00Irrational. I hate being told I am being irrationa...Irrational. I hate being told I am being irrational. because OF COURSE I am being irrational, and the rational thing to do would be to heed that warning, but then again I am being IRRATIONAL so . . . ;) sigh. Glad I have a hubby that doesn't hesitate to reel in that irrationalness. lolColehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14094102802633154552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-190265362537976617.post-11813396125025640132013-04-13T18:15:26.170-07:002013-04-13T18:15:26.170-07:00it is a challenge isn't it?!? Amazing how thre...it is a challenge isn't it?!? Amazing how three little words can do such craziness to our emotions! lol Better is good right? It's improvement so we should take it! ;) Colehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14094102802633154552noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-190265362537976617.post-46913804500371921792013-04-13T18:02:49.683-07:002013-04-13T18:02:49.683-07:00I can remember freaking out when he told me that. ...I can remember freaking out when he told me that. Things are so different now. Glad it's good for you too.<br />BeaBeahttp://en.gravatar.com/mybeahindnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-190265362537976617.post-53067352801856609072013-04-13T16:34:16.776-07:002013-04-13T16:34:16.776-07:00Wow I can definitely relate to that. I hate being ...Wow I can definitely relate to that. I hate being told to calm down before and those words would send an argument to another level lol. Now though it is different. Half the time I just end up in the corner but I am starting to make progress at calming down when he says something.Mischiefhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15206940756218059735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-190265362537976617.post-27918965514310555372013-04-13T14:53:05.852-07:002013-04-13T14:53:05.852-07:00I understand exactly what you mean--in general, if...I understand exactly what you mean--in general, if someone tells me to "calm down" when I'm upset all it will do is make me more upset. But I know when my husband says it in *that* tone, he's calling me out because I'm being irrational, and he's not afraid to use his HoHiness to get the point across. It's on a different level. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14763217720019373027noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-190265362537976617.post-67867946759249869922013-04-13T12:04:14.173-07:002013-04-13T12:04:14.173-07:00I love this post! It is SO true for me too! Bein...I love this post! It is SO true for me too! Being told to "calm down" is like throwing fuel on my fire. I'm getting a little better since, as you said "I gave him the authority to be HoH" but it's still a hard uphill battle to react positively when emotions are in full force. :)Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14157634787290693634noreply@blogger.com